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Why is lying so important to covert narcissism?

Lying is a compulsory defense mechanism for the covert narcissist because remember, he or she is severely insecure and they will guard their false self/representative by any means necessary.

At the same time, they often don’t see it as a lie, because their false constructs are very much real in their minds. If I fundamentally see myself as a victim who must be protected, then even after I victimize you, I can only retell the story based on my understanding of “reality.” It’s not about the facts, but the covert narcissist feelings.

Dr. Vanessa R. Abernathy



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